Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Tuesday's Tribute..It's Time To Give Back


Old Friendships....The Small Things That Make It Special...



Imagine my surprise when Emily calls me while I am at the hospital and ask me if I ate popcorn when I was pg with a friend at the hospital. I said HUH? She said well Mom someone dropped off a bag with popcorn and salad...I said oh my goodness was it white cheddar popcorn and such and such salad...she said yes how did you know...I said..I just knew that minute...I felt such a feeling of .....I do not even know how to describe it....just comfort. Not that someone brought me popcorn and salad and fruit. But that they knew WHAT to bring...Let me explain.
Over 18 years ago I walked outside my hospital room and saw a young girl in labor. We talked a little ...and I walked to the nursery and wished her good luck. A few hours later I found out I was getting a room mate and guess what....yep it was that girl..Jill....what a blessing. We bonded from that minute on. She had her little girl...I had my little boy...and we had a friendship that was special. If you were to ask her she would tell you that she watched Philip pee pee on me the first time. She would tell you I was so drugged up from my csection that she had to help me with the snaps for Philip's outfit. She would tell you that Philip was born 3 weeks early and I did not have a bassinet and she had Matt go get the extra one they had and drop it off at my inlaws.
What she may not tell you is...she made my first year of motherhood special. I can remember spending the night at her house and Philip just crying all night...at the time we did not know he was sick..and she helped me for hrs trying to find a way to make him sleep. I can remember her coming to the hospital to be with me when Philip had his brain operations. I can remember her bring her sweet daughter and having her lay with Philip in the crib and spend hours with me at the hospital. I remember her and Matt coming for Philip to be baptised the night before his operation when we did not know if he would live through his first brain operation. I am not going to mention when she watched him for me to meet with the specialist and there was some nursing involved because he would not take a bottle...Gosh what a friend...
She went in with Jim and took pictures when Reed was born. She babysat my kids while Philip was so very sick. The list goes on and on..
Jill would bring me bags of cheddar popcorn and salad and candy bars to the out of town hospital. So when Emily said that there was a bag of popcorn...I KNEW...
What is so special is Matt was in the Military so Jill moved to Hawaii and was away for a long time. And now has moved back. But notice that even with all that time passed....it seemed that time stood still....she brought me back to those days of...just reminding me that she cared and was there and wanted to do something to know she was here for me. And want to hear the most awesome part. She did not even know that Jim was in the hospital. She just had this feeling.
It is the little things....that mean the most.

10 comments:

AmberP said...

Amy - I have not been around lately - but I wanted to say that I think of you and your wonderful family everyday. I just LOVE this story - because it proves there is still love and kindness in this world. Praying for healing, for peace, for relief in yours guys' already too stressful life! All of my love!!

Tracy B said...

Oh Amy dear I woke up from a deep sleep feeling a need to see if you posted any updates and here you had!!! My prayers go out to you, Jim and Philip why does things have to happen to good people! I know we are not too question but its hard not too!!! That was wonderful that your friend reached out to you at a time that you needed it but yet she really wasn't too aware of what was fully going on its amazing how Gods works and sends special angels huh? Please know I am here for you and will continue to pray that all goes good for everyone!!! Take care and great big hugs!!!!
Love ya
Tracy

April said...

Hi Amy!
How very thoughtful of your friend to do that for you...that is, without a doubt, a TRUE friend. Cherish it forever as those kinds of friendships are rare. I love the story of how you met!

I just read the update about Jim. I will keep him close in my prayers as he prepares to undergo surgery for his back. God WILL take care of him...I just know it! Hope you feel better today, too! HUGS!♥

annie kelleher said...

what a great tribute to a wonderful friend!

Rebecca said...

What a wonderful friend! You are truly blessed with a great friendship like that!

Aspiemom said...

Oh, wow, that is SUCH a neat, neat story! Made me want to cry! What a wonderful friend you have! I'm so glad - you need someone like that.

How is Jim doing?

bluesuede said...

Amy, I woke up during the night thinking about you. I went bakc to sleep and dreamed about you, too. It was really mixed up as most of my dreams are, but it involved people from a forum showing up at your house in Arkansas(?). Ha! One person was a guy who used "Melanie" for his screename. Shall I go on? I thought that's what you would say. lmbo

I have a friend like Jill. She just always "knows" and no matter how long we go without talking, we pick right up where we left off.

misty said...

That is so wonderful! I love your story of how you met too. I cherish friends like that, when you can just pick up right where you left off, no matter how long it's been.It's so great you have that with her!

Liz (Loving Mom 2 Boys) said...

What an amazing friend!! You and your family have been going through so much lately, what a blessing it must be to have her in your life!!

Vic said...

Amy, this post brought me to tears. I have been in your position and I have a friend like that. Who just shows up and helps. She is the most wonderful person I have ever met. Thank you for sharing such a wonderful story it was beautiful. Be strong.